Keep dreaming, it's the only way to go

It's times like this I'm reminded of how much I hate human interaction, and yet I also realize how much I need human interaction. You know how some people don't speak the same language and yet understand each other, yet there will be those who speak the same language perfectly but will never ever understand each other. It is precisely because they speak the same language and can communicate and argue, which is why it creates a false sense of understanding and eventually leads to a breakdown in communication. No matter how you try to explain, emotions end up getting in the way and there is no way of communicating, which leads to disconnection. It's this disconnection that makes one feel so violated. There is just no longer a point in communicating because no one is willing to listen. Deep down the root cause is probably a difference in values and priorities. Like some people would spend money on experiences, while I spend money on food. Neither is wrong, but travelling t...

Nothing lasts forever. Even things that one used to think could have lasted forever, probably would still end because it is just too hard to defy nature's laws. Perhaps there are some who are strong enough to fight against nature, but most of us including myself probably just cannot. I am not above nature. When people decide they have the right to think in a certain way, and cannot see other perspectives, then it becomes a matter of agreeing to disagree. Yet it is tough for most to agree to disagree. Especially when values misalign. Not just random differences, but differences that hit the core of our being. That is possibly when people fall out of friendships and relationships. Even bonds as deep as mother and son can break because of these misalignments in values. Just like how a spine misalignment can cause severe discomfort like nerve impingement and muscle wastage. We either have to fix it or suffer the pain and life impediments. Fixing it means either re-aligning the spine th...

 My dream was never to live in a condo, nor a landed property. Honestly what's the good in these material goods when one has to pay such high maintenance fees and the interior is pretty much similar to a HDB? What's the good in these when management isn't even that great compared to a town council? What's the good in these when I've known people wanting to jump from their 2m condos because of poor relationships? Yeah money makes things easier I guess, but the lack of money also gives you no choice but to live and try to make things work. The lack of money gives you clarity as to who would still stay with you for who you are and what you stand for instead of what you're worth. I'm not lost in my life. I've mentioned my dreams before. But sometimes I do wonder who actually hears them and would want to help me fulfil them. I don't need a condo, but if my loved one wanted to work towards it, sure. I hear you and I'm able to help you with it. But did ...

I'm almost 18weeks and I think my hormones are making me sorta crazy? Like one day I can be feeling like I'm wasting my life away and crying myself to sleep, and then when I wake up I feel fine lol. But I've been feeling quite a bit of ups and downs internally for the past 1 month or so and I keep thinking it's due to the limbo I've been in while waiting for the results of an award I had applied for, as well as the stress from organising a major international conference. Maybe the hormones just amplify these emotions? I'm not entirely sure but the mood swing is pretty drastic. I guess there will be times in life we just feel we made the wrong decisions and we are not where we are supposed to be? It's weird because I do see what I have in life - the most loving, understanding and lovable boy and a 2nd on the way, a flexible job, a roof over my head that's in such a centralised location, no debts to worry about hence being able to quit whenever I want - bu...

Health Do 5-10 pull-ups every day (aim to do 1 un-assisted by the end of June). Hip stretches for at least 5min every day after work. Sleep at 10 - 1030pm. Go for yoga at least once a week when mil is here. Nature walks at least once a month. Baby A Bring him somewhere new & educational at least twice this year. (E.g. Children's museum). Wheelbarrow at least once a week. Or some other fun strengthening exercise. Teach him to read. Explore cricket/other sports opportunities. Planned Breaks Take leave from 25th Dec - 31st Dec. Travel at least once a year. Celebrate our birthdays. Hobbies Read It's Not Me. Home Enhancement Reorganize cupboards so that we can find stuff more easily. Hunt for our BTO/SBF. Elemit Yoga Plan our first yoga retreat. Not sharing my financial goals since I feel it's a little too personal. TTFN!

Hi, we're back here after ONE year! Health Do 20-30s handstands every day. I did not do this yikes! Thought yoga was enough but once a week is far from enough so I have to make myself do this! I did do pull-ups towards the end of the year though. Stretch at least 5min every day. I did this sometimes, but not every day...Too much phone! Sleep at 10 - 11pm. Managed to do this for most of the year, but sometimes the phone gets in the way!! Tsk! Go for yoga at least once a week when mil is here. Most successful goal perhaps haha! Nature walks at least once a month. Yeah we went to Botanic Gardens several times and also walked around the neighbourhood pretty frequently. Hope to do this more often though. Baby Teach him to ride the bike. 👍 (trike) Get him off diapers.👍 Wean him off breast milk.👍 Read a book to him every week. Failed, but thankfully my MIL actually taught him to write letters 💓 Planned Breaks Take leave from 25th Dec - 31st Dec. (Felt really good in 2023, but also dep...

I feel my life's like an arranged marriage...In a good way though. I married a native Indian, and it was a so-called "love marriage". But everything else in my life seems so "arranged". By that I mean every decision made seemed to be based on first impressions instead of long-term planning. I chose my uni course based on a simple attraction to natural health. I didn't consider the workload, the ulu-ness of NTU, the prospects of becoming a TCM physician, or other job prospects for that matter. There weren't many choices of uni anyway. It was either NUS or NTU, or an overseas uni. I knew if I were to go overseas, I would be doing veterinary medicine. But since the overseas universities didn't want me, I narrowed down my choices to the local Us. I don't even remember if I had any 2nd or 3rd choices. I know I submitted an NUS USP application, but they gave me a conditional offer. The TCM course in NTU gave me an unconditional offer, so I took it up. ...