Called by the police, again...

 Ugh so today the police called again and this time I had to go give my statement. Because apparently Classpass had emailed us regarding the incident but we didn't respond (because we actually didn't receive anything). I'm the one in charge of answering emails so they got me in. Time check: It's been almost 2mths since the first call. 

So obviously my hubby got really upset again. He doesn't get why the police takes so long to investigate. But the problem is because we don't have a CCTV so it's one person's word against another. I assume the other 2 witnesses (students) didn't want to provide their statement. And for some reason the phone numbers for the 2 students were swapped. Meaning the police called one number thinking it was one person but it ended up being the other. Weird. 

Anyway during the statement taking, besides asking about the Classpass email, the investigation officer (different from the last one) made me recount what I knew about the incident. It was odd though, because she didn't know what Classpass was. And I told her that I thought the accuser accidentally hit 'missed' in classpass, meaning the accuser should have had to pay extra $36 for 2 classes, which was why I think the accuser went to make a police report since she would be upset for having to pay extra. But she didn't include that in my statement since she felt my reasoning was not likely. She even said maybe the accuser was angry and wanted to mark that she didn't attend the lessons. But I said if she was upset she could have given us a 1 star rating and a poor review instead of paying $36. Anyway I added it in afterwards when she let me check my statement. 

This incident makes me really mad at all the girls and women who wear revealing clothes and yet tell men to keep it in their pants. I honestly want to tell them to keep theirs in their shirts and pants as well. It seems rather far fetched, but I say this because the girl who had accused my hubby wore a sports bra to his class. Adjustments to the thigh area just above the knee or the lower back is generally accepted by sports bra-wearing people even without consent being sought. And I reiterate, my hubby demonstrated first and used verbal correction cues, but because she couldn't follow instructions or she had poor awareness of her body, my hubby had no choice but to adjust her (otherwise such teachers who don't correct their students are known as lazy or lousy). 

Because it is my hubby's word against that girl's word, I am mad at the people who advocate trusting the 'victims'. This incident made me want to find all the Instagram accounts that advocate trusting victims so that I could report those accounts. But I decided that wasn't a good plan so I stopped myself. These 'victims' seriously need help. They need to know how to protect themselves so that they don't get innocent people like my hubby in trouble or immense stress. There is so much grey area- both sides can say my hubby touched her back, but who is to decide what is okay? If it's based on consent, she did not say 'don't touch me', but who is to believe my hubby (since I think the other 2 witnesses didn't give their statements)? 

My hubby is very affected. He wanted to stop teaching yoga. (It is extra income for us, we don't live off income from the yoga studio.) I said don't hurt us because of that girl. You have such a strong body, but your mind is so easily controlled by that scrawny  girl. I reprimanded him and told him molest is now a small thing in Singapore because girls nowadays get molested all the time, it's common, it's nothing. 

If you got offended by what I said, read below why I said that to my hubby. Why do they get molested? Because they allow it to happen. Women nowadays are very open, we hug and lean on guy's shoulders. Molest is happening all the time, but girls don't mind it. But when it suits them, they say that it's molest. And they can say that because they are women. Yet molest no longer brings shame to the woman or the family, because they're already so close to their male friends. There's really no such thing as purity. So what's there to be embarrassed about when getting molested? All men and women are molesting everyday, all men and women are getting molested everyday. Getting accused of molest is nothing much since it's so common. 

The only reason I'm holding back from raging online is because there are real predators and real victims out there. I can't just say things like what I said in my previous two paragraphs. But it's unfair that innocent people have to be put through the same kind of ordeal and be judged in the same way. And I feel that women are sabotaging women in this issue as well because I am getting affected as well because of what that woman did. If sexual assault brings about emotional trauma, we being accused of sexual assault are also getting emotionally traumatized. Who are you to say our trauma is less than yours? Yet what can we accuse you of? Being racist? Being sexist? 

The officer said it usually takes about 6mths from now for the case to resolve. But since my hubby is a foreigner, she said they usually expedite the process, so she said to give it another 3mths. So let's see in April. 

TTFN.